Right, am off to maid of honour camp for a few days. See y’all on Thursday!
(Also the super-duper sad sadsies about to be unleashed in MW are getting me down, so if you feel like requesting any drabbles involving those two idiots not destroying each other, feel free to put them in my box [oi oi] for my return).
The reason I delete them is because I know well and good seeing a spooling conversation between myself and my nearest and dearest might not be what people want to see on their dash - I had to uninstall missing e, and know how miserable life can be without a blacklist. I delete for the benefit of anyone who doesn’t fancy reading my babbling even long after it’s over.
You sound like a sensible non-babbler, so you should do exactly as you wish with your conversation posts (also, I find deleting them keeps my blog far more streamlined and fandom-based and far less confusing for new initiates).
You’re not being harsh, anon, you’re being sensitive! Yay you! It’s not always possible to censor yourself around others, especially if you don’t know what or if anything in particular causes them discomfort. Let’s use an example: you want to jokingly tickle me, but I don’t like having my stomach touched.
- No means no. In the context of play, ‘no!’ might sound like ‘nooo, don’t tickle me, I can’t take it’ when it actually means ‘no, please don’t tickle me, I seriously can’t take it’. Do watch out for body language and facial expression, as people are sometimes too shy or too wary about social convention to admit they’re being triggered.
- Do as I say. If I want you to stay on the other side of the room from me, it’s not personal, but please do it. If I want to be held, please don’t ask me if I’m sure, just do it. Allowing me to take control of what’s going on will enable me to calm down that much faster. Leaving someone, even to get help, isn’t always a good idea.
- Don’t blame yourself. I didn’t forewarn you that I don’t like having my stomach touched, so how were you supposed to know? You whacking your head against a wall is going to make me feel horrible and possibly prevent me from entering a situation/expressing how I really feel in the future. It’s an apologise and move on issue.
- Don’t blame me. Do not say I can’t take a joke. Do not accuse me of having a problem with you. Do not tease me about it. This will cause all the same problems as above (e.g. making me withdraw rather than risk a similar situation again, making me lie and panic silently in order to be more acceptable), in addition to which, you’ll be an asshole.
If anyone else has more tips, feel free to add them. Four for you, Anon Coco, for taking care of your slightly more sensitive friends.
Ahhh, I was missing getting questions like this!
The thing I think Grey’s never really addressed is April was wrong to do what she did, and instead of proving how sorry she was to Jackson by pushing her apology and her feelings for him on him, she saw an out and a way to be in a relationship that doesn’t have such high stakes. In Mercy West, April has no other options - or, at least, she doesn’t have any other options she’d actually consider. There is no Matthew. There can be no ‘just friends’. There is facing up to what she did and what she has to do to make it better, fin.
What I want to achieve by the end of this story is not Jackson and April dating (although that may or may not happen). What I want is for April to be able to move on, from her mistakes with Jackson, from the deaths of her friends - to commit crimes, to do the time, and to come out the other side. We’ve already had an ‘OMG, she wants him’ scene, but there’s no onus on him to announce that he wants her. He was the adult one who waited for her to get reasy, she’s the one who’s been flopping like a fish, keeping secrets.
That said…there is going to be an epic scene based on Take It Back, and an epic scene which kind of reminds me of another couple, but which I didn’t plan that way. Epicness will hopefully abound.